Understanding Asexuality: What It Is & Why It Deserves Visibility

Asexuality is one of the least understood — and most misrepresented — identities on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. But it’s also one of the most powerful reminders that there’s no single way to experience love, connection, or identity.

Let’s take a closer look at what asexuality really means, what it doesn’t, and why ace visibility matters more than ever.

❓ What Does It Mean to Be Asexual?

Being asexual means a person experiences little to no sexual attraction to others. That doesn’t mean they can’t have meaningful relationships, fall in love, or express intimacy. It just means that sexual attraction is not a central part of how they connect — and that’s perfectly valid.

Some asexual people might still have sex, be in romantic partnerships, or experience physical closeness. Others may not. There’s no one right way to be ace.

To go deeper into the emotional and cultural significance of this identity, check out our blog on celebrating asexuality.

🌈 Asexuality Is a Spectrum

There’s more than one way to be asexual. The asexual (or “ace”) spectrum includes identities such as:

Graysexual: someone who rarely experiences sexual attraction
Demisexual: someone who only experiences attraction after forming a deep emotional bond
Aegosexual/autochorissexual: someone who may fantasize about sex but not want it in real life

This diversity is part of what makes asexuality beautiful — and deeply individual.

🚫 What Asexuality Isn’t

There are still lots of myths and misconceptions out there. Let’s clear a few up:

❌ Asexuality is not celibacy (that’s a choice, not an orientation)
❌ It’s not a phase, or something to fix
❌ It’s not the result of trauma, shyness, or confusion
❌ Asexual people are not cold, robotic, or incapable of love

Asexuality is a valid orientation. Period.

💑 What About Relationships?

Asexual people can — and do — have romantic relationships. Some are aromantic (not interested in romance), while others identify as heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, or something else entirely.

What connects ace folks is the lack of sexual attraction — not a lack of desire for connection, companionship, or intimacy.

📢 How to Be an Ally to the Ace Community

✅ Respect people’s identities without asking for proof or explanation
✅ Use inclusive language that doesn’t assume everyone is sexual
✅ Celebrate ace visibility in Pride spaces and media representation
✅ Learn and share resources that center ace voices and experiences

Start by checking out our blog post on 4 facts about the asexual pride flag — a symbol of pride, resistance, and community.

Wear It With Pride

Visibility matters. Whether you’re ace or an ally, showing support is powerful. You can express it with something as simple as a flag — like the one designed for asexual pride.

Grab yours here: Asexuality Pride Flag.